How To Survive When Tragedy Strikes

Tragedy in this context is an event or occurrence causing great suffering or distress as a result of accident, loss, a natural catastrophe and so on.

It is one thing in life that no one ever prays for, wishes to know or experience.

But we do know tragedy. We do experience it. We all have, and at some point in time we all will.

Do not grudge pain. It holds on its hot blanket the evidence of life; handled and well managed, life from it takes its meaning

Olufunke Kolapo

We can say all we can do is be prepared for when it strikes. But we can never be prepared, not really.

When tragedy strikes, it knocks you off your feet and sometimes paralyses you so that you will never rise again.

It leaves you out of breath, numb, terrified, and disoriented that you can’t even remember how you got where it flung you.

And as if you never happened it whirls by in search of its next victim.

You are left in a daze, in the middle of nowhere turning in a gyre of agony and confusion.

So you say to yourself that you are not someone who gets knocked down, whose life is turned upside down, who is lost in the middle of nowhere with no compass or light to find your way to yourself.

You keep telling yourself you are not the one.

It is supposed to happen to someone else, someone without a face or name.

Someone other than you. It has happened, that is the truth.

When I was hit by a truck that took my leg and damaged my pelvis, it took me a while to accept the truth.

That I was the same person who left home that morning, the same person who had made so many plans the previous day, or the month before.

Sometimes, it still feels like a dream or another lifetime, I still imagine that I would just get up and walk without grabbing my walker, or crutches or buckle my leg on before walking.

But it is true, it is not a dream and I am not dead. I am not saying it is going to be easy because it’s not.

I am not asking you to snap out of it, to get up and move on. Or that you will get over it, because I haven’t.

Do you know why?

Whatever you have lost still remains a loss. Your job, limbs, opportunities, marriage, friendship, freedom and so on.

You can get a replacement but the tingling of the first loss remains just like phantom pain.

The person you lost is gone forever, the space they have left in your life and heart still remains vacant.

Take your time, catch your breath, you are the only one who knows how deep the hurt is, how painful the agony is. You set the pace.

Do remember though, don’t get lost in your tragedy, in your grief, don’t let the storm take you.

Cry if you must, scream if you can or if you want to. I kept it in for so long and ended up screaming in .y head. Believe me, it is unpleasant and exhausting

And remember, it is important to keep living on for as long as life gives you breath because that’s the only way they keep living on, in you, through you, your memories of them.

So, like an amputee grab those crutches or walker, fasten your leg and keep moving. Because you know it is the only way you get to move at all.

I always do that to remind myself, that as long as I’m still here, as long as I can move, I can get wherever I want.

I can be me because I am still me, just one leg short. Whenever I am down, I would move. I would get up, walk and breathe in some fresh air.

Whatever you can do that will not hurt you or someone else, if it keeps you going, keeps you hoping and living, do it.

Whatever you are doing right or that you can do to make you feel alive, make you human makes you feel you, keep doing it.

Keep moving one small step at a time; one day at a time.

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Suicide – The Greatest Act of Cowardice

SUICIDE is the greatest act of COWARDICE no one should ever consider no matter how hopeless you believe yourself to be.

Or how biggest a failure you think you are.

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I said “think” because there is always someone worse than you, someone having it more horrible than you somewhere.


Before I continue let me ask these few questions.


Have you lost your job?
Did you fail your exam?
Are you depressed?


Did your business go bankrupt?


Are you suffering from broken heart?


Are you a victim of a broken home or marriage?


If you are suffering from any of these or others that I didn’t mention and you are already thinking of committing suicide because you see it as a solution to your problems, you’re wrong.

It is not the answer.

Suicide doesn’t mean you are brave enough to take your own life but an act of cowardice. You are nothing but a coward running away from your trouble instead of facing and providing solutions to it.

” if I had no sense of humour, I would have long ago committed suicide”.

Mahatma Gandhi

This quote implies that Gandhi also passed through some tough times but he never committed suicide. He died an honourable death worth remembering.

How long have you lived that you think things can’t get back to being normal for you? What are the solutions you have explored that made you accept that your only option is to take your own life?


A lot of youths are taking the easiest way out or considering suicide every day and no one cares to know what the true causes are.


Let me ask other questions:


Have you ever heard of a street thug committing suicide?


Have you ever heard of a notorious criminal committing suicide?


The answer is NO. Why? Only those with dreams, talents, those with brilliant ideas are the ones who believe in suicide because they think their world has fallen apart because of a little challenge.

We seem to be too brilliant, we have understood the meaning of suicide which makes us think it’s the best way to be free from all our worries.


Did you ever imagine the loss you are going to cause to the world after ending your own life not to mention the pain you will cause your families and loved ones?


Suicide is cowardly, why not be courageous and face your problems.


Let me a reference on the story of Colonel Sanders the founder of Kentucky fried chicken (KFC).


When Colonel Sanders was five years old his father died, so his mother took a job peeling tomatoes in a canning factory and earned extra money by sewing at night.

Sanders had to take care of his siblings, learning how to cook so he could feed them. He held his first job at the age of ten, working on a nearby farm.

Because the family was so poor, Sanders left school after sixth grade so he could work full time. At age 17 he had already lost four jobs.


At age 18 he got married.
Between ages 18 and 22, he was a railroad conductor and failed.


He joined the army and washed out there.
He applied for law school he was rejected.
He became an insurance sales man and failed again.


At age 19 he became a father.
At age 20 his wife left him and took their baby daughter.


He became a cook and dishwasher in a small cafe.
He failed in an attempt to kidnap his own daughter, and eventually he convinced his wife to return home.


At age 65 he retired.
On the 1st day of retirement, he received a cheque from the Government for $105.


He felt that the Government was saying that he couldn’t provide for himself.
He decided to commit suicide, life wasn’t worth living anymore; he had failed so much.

Suicide -The Greatest Act of Cowardice


He sat under a tree writing his will, but instead, he wrote what he would have accomplished with his life. He realised there was much more that he hadn’t done. There was one thing he could do better than anyone he knew. And that was how to cook.


So he borrowed $87 against his cheque and bought and fried up some chicken using his recipe, and went door to door to sell them to his neighbours in Kentucky.


Remember at age 65 he was ready to commit suicide.


But at age 88 Colonel Sanders, founder of Kentucky Fried Chicken (KFC) Empire was a billionaire.


Moral of the story: Attitude.

It’s never too late to start all over. If Sanders could realise at age 65 that there are a lot of things he could get done, what’s your excuse at your 20s,30s,40s to start thinking about the end?

If Sanders had committed suicide we won’t have KFC to stay. Stop thinking about suicide but think about the loss you’re about to bring to the world and your family with your death.

Think about all the things you can do, all you haven’t done that could make a difference.


MOST IMPORTANTLY, IT’S ALL ABOUT YOUR ATTITUDE. NEVER GIVE UP NO MATTER HOW HARD IT GETS.


You have what it takes to be successful. Go for it and make a difference. No guts no glory. It’s never too old to dream.
Suicide is not a solution, don’t opt for it.

Written by Ayobami Samuel Ogunsola
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10 TV Series You Can Watch During This Quarantine

TV series or shows is one of the biggest ways you can entertain yourself or others. Or even spend some alone time without being alone.

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I know you are itching to get out there go back to work, finish your projects and even reunite with all the people you are missing.

I am too.

But we cant do that yet. we need to stay home to stay healthy and remain alive.

Therefore, I have made a list of 10 TV series you can watch or watch all over again. This is for you if you are ready to escape for a while from this present uncanny reality.

The Last Air Bender

I know you might think this for kids. Yes, it seems so. But what better way to get through this period that would make you feel young again.

This is a show that can transport you from this dreadful time to another place even for a while. And the best part, you can watch with your kids. In here, the world is divided into four elements, there are those who can bend each of the four elements and one person who must learn to bend them all. The safety of everyone depends on it.

You can watch on Amazon Prime Video or get here

The Vampire Diaries:

TV Series To Watch

Although I watched this TV Series a while ago. I have started watching it again to fill up all the extra time and I-want-to-scream time at home.

There are eight seasons and 22 episodes in each season. Did I hear a Wow?

Well, you can’t run out of something to watch with this.

Watch here. This is where it all began.

The Originals:

10 TV Series To Watch During This Quarantine

This is one of my favourite show ever. And it is also a spin-off of the Vampire Diaries. If you enjoyed TVD, I am sure you would love the Originals. You must have fallen in love or curious about them enough to wonder how they came to be.

I watched The Originals for the second time last year. I think it would be perfect for this period because it promises to take you far away from here to a world where Vampires, Werewolf and eery other things you only hear about in folktales are real.

More so, it is all about family, which is why I love it. Family is forever, this is one thing we all must have come to realise by now that we have plenty of time to spend around one another or away from one another.

Klaus is my favorite and then Elijah. Yes I know Klaus is the devil but still always there when his family needs him. Even sacrificed himself for them for years.

I’ll wait for your comment here and your favorite Michaelson.

Stranger Things

You are going to love Stranger Things. It is a great TV series. The storyline and characters you will fall in love with.

It is intense, suspense filled, can be creepy which might make it not suitable for kids.

Although it features kids mostly, it is targeted at the adult audience. I love the courage and friendship the theme is built around.

Legacies

It is the latest of The Vampire Diaries Spin-off. I’m adding it here in case you love the first two series like me.

Legacies follow Hope Michaelson, Klaus’ daughter who gave his life and everything for. Although Legacies promises nothing of the continuation from The Originals, there are still references to characters from TVD and The Originals. And some have appeared already

But fear not, Legacies is not a continuation of either of the first two. So you don’t miss anything if you decide to watch it first.

Jane The Virgin:

This is one great TV series of desire a jolly and hilarious yet educating escape during this quarantine.

The show starts with an accidental pregnancy of the lead actress. It later moves towards family, bonds, loyalty, betrayal, love, and lots more. It is a great one for lovers of shows that have concluded like me.

I don’t really like waiting…

Greys Anatomy:

This is one show that can keep you busy for a very long time. It is for lovers of medicals and its personnel’s.

You will surely fall in love with the doctors, bond with them, and even cry with them as they struggle to unite or separate their personal life from their jobs and their patients.

I have included it here because it might help us appreciate our care givers more.

The Good Place:

I have this here for lovers of comedies. It is the best one in a while. You find yourself navigating afterlife with Kristen Bell. And I can assure you, you might end up wondering how it is going to be for you or if you will actually get one.

One Tree Hill:

I fell in love with this show and I have watched it thrice. It is about the lives of some teens in the fictional town of Tree Hill. It is packed with teen drama, love, life, ambition, betrayal, family bonds.

It has them all and will keep you busy for a while.

10 TV Series You Can Watch During This Quarantine

Homecoming:

This is for all the lovers of dark and mixture of the dark and the hilarious. You will definitely love this series. And if you already do, you can watch again.

It stars Julia Roberts and base on a mysterious facility that helps soldiers make the transition back to civilian life.

You can add more to this list. i would love more suggestions of tv shows to watch and im sure many would too.

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It’s My Birthday: A Toast To 40 Years

It’s my birthday today! I had made a lot of plans for today. But due to restrictions on movement and social distancing, I can’t do much.

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My birthday was just a remembrance of my arrival into the world until 2012,

I was always grateful to be alive but it never went farther than that.

However, April 2012 made it more than just a birthday.

I woke up to a brand new world that day. I opened my eyes when they were wheeling me into the theatre.

They lifted me onto the bed, propped up on two pillows, and supported by a doctor and one anaesthetist when we got into the theatre.

“Do you remember what happened?” I was not sure, so I didn’t say anything.

“You were in an accident, you were hit by a truck. You should see your leg before we proceed into surgery. We want you to see, okay”.

I nodded.

But I couldn’t sit. My head kept wobbling and my back refused to cooperate.

When I finally looked down and saw my leg or what was left of it, I was forced out of my drugged state.

It was horrible, although it didn’t register much then.

I couldn’t eat meat for two years. My heel was almost ripped off. I could see the bones in the openings where the flesh were torn off, ragged.

I woke up two days later. And got home four months later a brand new person with a brand new life.

And so I was reborn again on my birthday

Since then I started celebrating my Birth and Rebirth on my birthday.

A Toast To 40 Years

Because I got a new life, a second chance to live again, to try again to be better than I used to be.

Not everyone gets the chance to die and come back to life twice on the same day they were born.

So, I want you to celebrate with me again this year, my birth and rebirth.

I live to see my 40th birthday, not because I am worthy or better but because of His mercies.

I wanted to celebrate with my friends. Then I realised to be grateful, happy, thankful and sharing my story is more.

If I can inspire, motivate or uplift someone then this day would be complete. And I will be happier.

It’s my Birthday

I walked through the valley of the shadow of death, through fire and He brought me out stronger, and better.

Today, I pray for all who are in agony, distressed, depressed or their loved ones, may the Lord soothe your pain.

May He bring you out of all that bring tears to your eyes. And make you better, and stronger. So you can rise and tell the story of how you overcome.

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10 Most Frustrating Things About Amputation

There are lots of annoying and frustrating things about amputation, but I am only going to mention the most important ten for me.

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I am an amputee and I have been for eight years now.

It would be eight years in exactly two days. Wow!

I can’t believe it has been that long since my amputation. Sometimes it seems like yesterday.

Some days it seems like ages ago or another lifetime. And there are days I feel like I would wake up panting, sigh and realise it’s just a dream.

If only it could be a dream …

And that is the first frustrating thing about amputation, there are times you get confused or lost in it all, that you start wondering what is real and what isn’t

The loss of your limb feels like it didn’t really happen sometimes. Or like you had two lifetimes or more and the trauma or amputation happened in one of those past lives.

Phantom pain: This is usually the major frustration of an amputee. It can drive you crazy if you are not careful.

It is there and it is not there, itching, throbbing, gnawing like a missing limb. Like a ghost it never stops taunting, haunting and tormenting.

Yes, the missing limb. You live with its torment for as long as it wishes. Sometimes, it is my big toe nail. It would seem as if someone is pulling off its nails with pliers.

At other times it itches and all you can do is slap, shake, pat and eventually learn to ignore.

Forgetting you are now an amputee: Yes, it is possible. You can forget that you are missing one or two limbs sometimes. And it is cruel. I have been a victim of this many times. It never ends well.

I would forget I have only one leg left, then I’d get up in a hurry and land on my residual limb. Ouch!

No matter how well you have mastered the art of masking pain, you will howl.

It happens a lot now that I have a child. I’d get up to run to catch him or see why he screamed and I’d end up being the one screaming louder than him.

The Pity Stares: It took me a while to get used to this, until recently though.

Whenever I’m going to a place I’ve never been before or where they never seen me. I would practise a lot of breathing in through the nose, out through the mouth.

It is all so I don’t trip from the stares. It is worse when I get out of a car, especially if people have seen my face before I step out.

I can almost heart the ohs and ahs. The way the expressions softened or changed from admiration or interest to pity or just wow. Gosh, I hate it!

Strangers asking you personal questions: I can never get used to this. I always try to be calm and cool though.

Some people can’t keep in their curiosity. “Do you sleep with your prosthetics on?” I do not.

Some are blunt, like how you bath and if you crawl sometimes 🙂

And yes, I do by the way.

Most want to know how it feels to go about in artificial leg.

Mine feels as if I’m wearing a tight shoe, with my toes curled and cramped in the front and my heel pleading for an expansion. That is the best part.

The Lectures: Yes, you sometimes get lectures on how to live your life. It doesn’t matter if they are not amputees or never actually met one.

They read some motivational write ups or listen to them and want you to keep going on living that way.

They have no idea that you are not always the same person you were before your limbs decided to retire untimely.

For me, I was stuck on that road, that sunny day eight years ago for a very long time.

And whenever I hear any loud noise, my head is convinced that my body is about to be mauled again.

How can you make them understand all that?

They always believe it is a switch and all you have to so is flip. They just can’t understand. They are trying to help but it is just what it is.

So, just keep it in, it keeps the lectures short.

Having lots of unused one foot shoes or slippers: I have so many new left shoes and slippers at home. Especially when I was new at this and still trying to get used to my new life

I bought lots of shoes, sandals, flip flops I ended up not using and lots of left foot from the ones I was able to use.

When I got tired of keeping them, I started throwing them out as soon as I got them. At first it felt like throwing my foot away all over again.

Now, I stopped buying slippers or sandals and wearing only shoes. It’s boring but better than keeping the lot

And when I need my right leg to get wet, I wear old shoes or slippers.

Sitting to take a bath: There are days I want to stand to bath so bad. I can stand one leg for a while but not long enough to satisfaction

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And even then I keep swaying. Then I’d just realise it is not worth slipping in the bathroom. So I would do the standing in my head.

Learning new and different ways to do old things: Amputation forces you to learn everything you have ever known to do in your life all over again.

You have to start from scratch. And even though you know how to do them before, you learn again and this time, harder than you can ever imagine.

Walking, climbing, sitting, even sleeping you have to start all over. At first, I had to be contented with sleeping on my back

Because of this, I had years of sleepless night. I hated sleeping on my back. Amputation taught me to.

You must have the thickest skin ever. Yes, you mist be immune to all I have mentioned above and more.

You learn to be unaffected by all the unpleasantness that comes with amputation or learn to fake it.

Otherwise you would come off as a frustrated soul, aggressive or in need of serious therapy.

You learn to get used to the stares, strangers or even friends and families being kind to you when they don’t have to.

I hate when I know they should be angry but don’t want to be because they feel they shouldn’t.

You get used to the prying, rudeness, pity, lectures, sermons, hiding pains to make your loved ones happy.

You must keep on being strong and courageous no matter how exhausting it is. Because it is not just about you.

Some people need you to be stronger, and since you care about them,. You have to keep moving, crawling, hopping and doing whatever keeps you living one day at a time.

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I Remember- A Short Story

I remember this story when I was going to work this morning. With everything going on I couldn’t help it.

There is so much going on in the world right now that if we are not careful, we might get sucked into the anxiety, panic and uncertainties around us.

As much as I want to keep writing about Coronavirus, it’s effects, updates and all. I thought it would be a relief to share other things like stories to help keep our minds off the serious issues.

It would make our stay at home a little fun

I first published this story on African Writer four years ago.

I was thinking about this social distancing, isolation, quarantine and remember how they have been a part of my life for eight years until recently.

Then I remember how it all began. So, I decided to share the story here too. If it is not here, this blog is not complete.

I Remember by Olufunke Kolapo
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So let me tell you the story of how it all began …

I remember her eyes. There was something eerie about them. I can almost see her now like I did four years ago.

She was dark and thin, but there was strength in those eyes, in their depth; the way she blinked and widened them… I still get goose bumps whenever I remember them.

She was feeble but her upper arms were strong; thin but steady like her icy eyes.

I was about to jump into the waiting cab when our eyes met. Mine held, even when hers dropped to straighten her floral skirt.

I hardly stare or take much notice of strangers but for some reason, I was glued to that spot.

I was frozen. Now, when I think of it, I still have no idea why I paused.

When she looked up, I looked away, embarrassed like a child caught peeping through a key hole.

Then I saw a young man, maybe her brother, judging from the same set of full upper lips and oversized nose; he looked worn out in dirty jeans and a faded t-shirt as he held her wheelchair.

I stepped back to give him room, just realising then that I was blocking the cab.

I couldn’t stop myself from watching their well mastered performance of moving her from the car to the chair.

How she folded and shrank her body into a ball, her hands hugging her chest to make it easier for him to lift her into the wheelchair.

I was enthralled.

Then our eyes met again. I turned and hurried on to get another cab even as the driver was calling me to come back.

As I was about to step onto the cab, I glanced back and our eyes met, again. Hers hardened and then widened, with contempt? I have no idea.

I wondered why at first, then I realised she must find it irritating. I wished then that I could show her my thoughts. Or maybe she was offended that I didn’t take the cab? I sighed and closed the door.

I tried not to look to my right as I rode to lecture, but I couldn’t stop my head from wandering to her.

I pictured her bathing, dressing, growing from girlhood to womanhood.

I wondered if she had a boyfriend. Will she have children, know the joy of motherhood? Then I saw another boy hopping on one leg and a wooden crutch.

I wondered what happened to him too; was he born that way, or in an accident? How does he survive each day knowing tomorrow would be the same?

What does he do when in danger? Who looks out for him? Who takes care of them all?

I had so many questions in my head as we drove on. How do one live on knowing you can hardly live or do anything by yourself without help from someone else.

I am an independent person. I love being able to do things on my own and by myself. Would I ever be able to live that way? Would I be able to go on knowing it would be like that everyday?

I didn’t have to wait for long to find out, as I didn’t return to my home or bed until four months later.

I spent those months in a surgical ward with a front row view watching “Behind the Scenes of an Amputee’s Life”.

Now, I know.

Because it is my life now. And I am still in it.

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This Too Shall Come To Pass

A COVID-19 POEM

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This too shall come to pass. The pandemic, COVID-19 along with the pain, affliction, anxiety, isolation it brought along with it. They will all come to pass.

They will be forgotten and become things of the past because nothing last forever. Every beginning must have an end.

Samuel Ayobami Ogunsola wrote a poem to encourage and remind us in this dark times, that this too shall pass. We shall overcome it together like we always do.

This Too Shall Come To Pass (A COVID-19 Poem)

The heart is crumbling
The soul is weeping
Death rate is rising Over human race
People brimmed with fear
Sorrows and tears
The deceased weep on
For their sorrowful death

I slept at night
I woke at dawn to find the virus at my door step
Without a thought
I banged my door
It is here
It has spread from China to France, Italy,
The United states
Now it has landed in my Mother land

Without a travel ticket
It has traveled across the globe in planes and boats.

But it only came for a visit
It has not come to stay
It only stays when you welcome it
Shut all windows
Shut all doors
Leave no openings
Do not let it into yours homes
And it will leave on his own

Just as influenza, bubonic(The Black Death)
and Ebola came for a visit but now they had crawled back into their caves
For they are not allowed to stay with us
We fought them bravely
We overcame
We won the battle against the viral diseases that came to destroy our race

Let's not loose hope
Hold on to your faith
Covid-19 has not come to stay
Just like the others
This too shall come to pass


Written by

Samuel Ayobami Ogunsola

Stay at home; Stay safe




Top 5 Ways To Overcome Writer’s Block

Graham Greene called writer’s block a “Creative Blockage” one that prevented him from seeing the development of a story, or even at times, its start.

What is Writer’s Block?

Writer’s block is a state of total lack of creative sense. It is like utter emptiness or blackness in a writer’s mind.

Your well of creativity is completely dry, your head becomes a deep dark pitch of nothingness.

You can’t come up with any idea or even a title. You have all this nameless or faceless people running about on your mind. Buy you can’t do anything with them.

For me, sometimes I have an idea but I can’t come up with a start or a middle. And sometimes it is absence of everything.

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I have been suffering from writer’s block for a while now. It is frustrating, annoying and paralysing.

It’s as if I forgot how to use my limbs or that I ever had them. If you have ever experienced it before, you would understand.

When I read some of the poems I wrote years back and some of my other works, I wondered if I actually wrote them. They are so strange because now I can’t write anything close.

So, what are the causes of Writer’s Block?

Any number of things could bring it on, this can be physical, mental or psychological.

It could arise from anxiety, depression, personal problem, trauma, solitude, judgement or criticism, hopelessness, solitude, overanalysing, stress or even a person.

Sometimes when you have written works or years of writing behind you, keeping up with your own standard becomes a burden that could bring on a block.

You kill your ideas before you begin or while at it because you decided they’re not good enough. Frustration sets in and you are blocked.

How Long Does It Last?

It can last anytime from hours to weeks, months, or years. And sometimes it depends on the writer or the actual cause of his creative blockage.

How Can You Overcome Writer’s Block?

Don’t Stop Writing: The mistake I made was I stopped writing. At first I wanted to write more by all means. I wanted to be able to write like I used to. When I couldn’t, I was frustrated. So, I stopped.

Writing is like a muscle that needs to be flexed. When muscles are not used your body interpreted that they are not important.

So, your body stops supporting them and giving them energy. They shrink. The same happens to a writer who stops writing.

Write anything that comes to your mind, anything you see, what you are feeling or maybe what someone beside you is going through. Just write, eventually a good idea will come up.

Get Personal: This is what I did and still doing. I get personal. I started writing about me. My creative blockage came as a result of PTSD- trauma, depression and, anxiety.

I have been writing about it all, my story, my scars, my life after the trauma. The good, the bad and the ugly.

And the in between too, there are lots of stories, experiences, healing, friendship, loyalty, betrayal, hope, hopelessness and more.

While at it, go out more, see people, socialise, go to parties, do things that you don’t do before. Breathe, walk, feel, be happy.

There are so many people who can learn from those things that made you, you and the ones that remoulded you. Write about them!

Write Reviews: Write reviews of books, novels, plays. You can do same for products, ones you have used or love. You can write them in form of recommendations or even critics.

Write About Your Passion: You can write about something you love or someone. And it could be something you used to love, show why you stopped loving them and how that makes you feel.

It could be a hobby too, travelling, hiking, painting; they could lead to the beginning of a great story.

Listen to Motivational Speech: This here is to listen to them, not read them. Do it outdoors if possible with your earpiece. Have a writing pad and pen with you.

This is because I’m positive you will definitely gain a lot. It will trigger something in your head and ideas will spill out.

It has happened to the best of all and they overcame it. You will surely do too. Don’t stop writing.

Have you ever experienced Writer’s Block Before? How did you overcome it?










	

20 Inspirational Quotes For International Women’s Day

Today is March 8, The International Women’s Day. A day dedicated to honouring the achievements of women throughout the world.

This day celebrates Women’s movement and struggle for equality as depicted in this year’s theme, “I am Generation Equality: Realizing Women’s Rights.

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Although, no country in the world can boast of the achievement of gender equality for all, it can’t stop us from celebrating and acknowledging Women’s Day.

This is became every year we celebrate we renew the hope and believe in equality for all.

And together we can create a gender equal world for all.

So, for this year 2020 International Women’s Day, I have a compiled 20 Inspirational Quotes to motivate us to never stop believing in #EachforEqual. Human rights are women’s rights.

Happy International Women’s Day 2020

1• This is my favorite, “Here’s to strong women; may we know them. May we be them. May we raise them.

2• The best protection any woman can have is courage

Elizabeth Cady Stanton

3• Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim

Nora Ephron

4• She believed she could so she did.

Unknown

5• There is no force more powerful than a woman determined to rise.

W.E.B DUBOIS

6• It’s okay if you fall down and lose your spark. Just make sure that when you get back up, you rise as the whole damn fire.

Colette Warden

7• I am proud of the woman I am today because I went through one hell of a time to become her

Unknown

8• I am grateful to be a woman. I must have done something great in another life

Maya Angelou

9• There is no limit to what we as women can achieve.

Michelle Obama.

10• Human rights are women’s rights, and women’s rights human rights.

Hillary Clinton.

11• A woman is like a teabag, you can’t tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water.

Eleanor Roosevelt.

12• Most alluring thing a woman can have is confidence.

Beyonce.

13• There’s something about a woman with a loud mind that sits in silence smiling knowing she can crush you with the truth.

R.G Moon

14• Feminism isn’t about making women strong. Women are already strong. It’s about changing the way the world perceives that strength.

R.H Sin

15• What’s the greatest lesson a woman should learn? That since day one she’s already had everything she needs within herself. It’s the world that convinced her she did not.

Rupi Kaur.

16• Be the woman you needed as a girl.

Unknown.

17• Think like a queen. A Queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another steppingstone to greatness.

Oprah Winfrey.
20 Inspirational Quotes for International Women’s Day.

18• The age of a woman doesn’t mean a thing. The best tunes are played on the oldest fiddles.

Ralph Waldo Emerson.

19• We realise the importance of our voice when we are silenced.

Malala Yousafzai.

20• What we women need to do instead of worrying about what we don’t have is just love what we do have.

Cameron Diaz

10 Quotes To Motivate You On Monday

Monday is the back to work day; back to reality, annoying colleagues, dissatisfied boss and all other unpleasantness at work.

Although Monday is the first day after resting for the weekend, it can be the most stressful.

Motivational Monday
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This is mostly due to all the things attached to Monday and the loads work, expectations and goals on it. Appointments, medical or otherwise, job and school interviews are usually on Mondays.

If you want to meet people for the first time at their work place, we usually do this on Monday. I especially do this because I believe everyone would want to be at their jobs at the beginning of a new week.

I understand how the day can fill your heart with dread, anxiety and panic.

This can be harder since you don’t know what else the day could bring especially if you have an impatient boss, a working Mom, and traffic to confront.

It is no wonder that Africans, especially Yorubas believe so much in this day. They believe whatever you start your Monday with determines what you deal with for the rest of the week.

But let us also not forget that Mondays are also for fresh starts.

It is a new beginning, a day that you can start over and do better than the previous week.

So, I have compiled 10 quotes to motivate and inspire you to face your Monday with a positive mind, determination and vigour.

No matter how scary, gloomy or uncertain the future is, it becomes natural, safe and certain when it passes by.

Olufunke Kolapo

If you can dream it, you can do it.

Walt Disney

I hold within me the power to stand tall, to be all I am destined to be. I have within me all I need to be me

Olufunke Kolapo
Motivational Quote

Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.

Napoleon Hill

It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop

Confucius

The difference between the impossible and possible lies in a person’s determination.

Tommy Lasords

Not every obstacles can be removed, some you have to step on, some you jump over.

Olufunke Kolapo

Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.

Francesca Reighler

Positive anything is better than negative nothing.

Elbert Hubbard

Every day is the first day of the rest of your life, make it worthwhile.

Olufunke Kolapo
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